Tuesday, October 16, 2012

The Dangers Of Unchecked Emotions

"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. 
James 1:19-20"

Recently there was a video that circulated on YouTube showing an altercation between a male bus driver and female passenger. When I first heard about the video I wasn’t too sure if I actually wanted to watch it. However, my curiosity grew tremendously after I begin to see that  many people were debating sides on various social media forums.

I would be the first to say I am not really good at watching fights or any type of physical altercation between people. It upsets me too much, and it definitely bothers my spirit. When I first saw the video I was appalled, shocked, and in disbelief at what I was witnessing. The second time I watched the video I became a mediator in my head, trying to figure out what I would have done differently if I were present. The third time (Yes!! I watched it numerous of times) I was disgusted with the lack of self-control, respect and discipline from BOTH adult parties, and even more disgusted with the people videotaping. I thought, "should it even be a debate who was right or wrong;" because they BOTH behaved unruly and out-of-order. There’s NO right or wrong in a situation where two people lacked the ability to control their EMOTIONS.

I believe emotions are a beautiful gift from God. It's an expressive form of communication that brings quality and meaning to our existence. But an emotion that’s untamed, uncontrolled, and unstoppable is destructive and if not use correctly can have serious consequences on our lives.

Let me tell you about myself. I was that girl, the emotionally wrecked girl who wore her heart on her sleeve. The one who needed to feel wanted and needed in my relationships. The one others needed to be careful not to say the “wrong thing” or even more careful not to say it in a way that will offend me. I didn’t see anything wrong with me, but what I did know I felt disconnected from people. I lacked self-control and I allowed my emotions to be the driving force of my existence and relationships. Even writing this post, I get super emotional (In a good way of course!) because it wasn’t until I traded my bitterness, un-forgiveness, anger, resentment and selfishness for a life of peace in God, that I realized the dangerous and reckless life I was living. And that’s exactly what I saw in the video; the same thing I saw in myself and too often in others. Two people whom in that moment were slaves to their negative emotions, which ultimately impacted the way they behaved towards each other but most importantly themselves. They allowed their emotions like so many of us do to take them to a place that they would later regret.

Understand, the goal is not to be free from emotions, the goal is to be free from the control it has over you. Don’t ever be numb to your emotions; it’s healthy to be real with yourself about how you’re feeling. It’s a person's individual responsibility to manage his/her emotions, and allow it to serve you NOT lead you. So what do we need to do? First, we need to admit our shortcomings. There’s POWER in confession and repentance. Second, identify where the source of all your anger is coming from. For me my emotions were a defense tool. I acted out negatively because I felt people were always coming against me, and I wanted to protect myself. So identify your source; this may take deep soul searching and prayer. Lastly, but most importantly FORGIVE yourself. When I realized I was living a highly emotional life and how I’ve hurt others in the past, I felt shamed. God doesn’t want you to live a life in shame, there’s no condemnation in Christ..Romans 8:1!

Dear Reader, it’s a process, so don’t be so hard on yourself. It takes discipline to break bad habits. Small victories will always lead to big rewards. Remember, the best emotions are controlled emotions; emotions that are pondered on before action. So when you feel yourself getting heated in the moment, call on the name of Jesus! 

                                                          Cheers to a healthy life!


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